Attending a Malaysian wedding for the first time can be intimidating, that’s why it is important to know Malaysian wedding etiquette so we won’t be a deer in headlights when we arrive. There are many traditions and customs that make Malaysian wedding etiquette unique. However, this is nothing to stress over – Malaysian weddings are very fun when we know what to expect. Read below for 7 things about bridal malay wear we should know before attending our first Malaysian wedding:
The ceremony begins the evening before the celebration with the solemnisation or Akad nikah
This is held either at the bride’s house or at a local mosque. It is officiated by an imam or kadi, who reads verses from the Quaran and discusses with the groom his duties as a husband. The marriage is then declared solemn, and the bride and groom sign the marriage contract.
The husband gives his new wife a dowry, called a mas kahwin
This is done at the end of the solemnisation ceremony, and it represents the husband’s newfound responsibility to his wife. This is usually an essential (and very sweet!) part of Malaysian wedding etiquette.
There are multiple henna ceremonies, called berinai
Henna is a very important part of Malaysian wedding etiquette. The first henna ceremony is held before the solemnisation for the bride, with just her bridesmaids. There are then two berinai ceremonies for the bride and groom together, one before the solemnisation, and one after.
The celebration day starts with a procession from the groom’s home to the bride’s
After being notified by a representative of the bride that she is ready, the groom starts a procession from his house to hers. He is followed by his groomsmen as well as a Malaysian drum band, family, and friends. The procession is a fun and lively affair, and there will often be Quaran verses sung in celebration of the couple!
The guests try to prevent the groom from reaching the bride
As a guest, we will be expected to be an obstacle that the groom has to get to in order to reach his new bride. This part of Malaysian wedding etiquette is very similar to the door games played in traditional Chinese weddings! This is considered one of the most fun parts of the wedding for the guests so prepare to get a little goofy. The groom then usually will ‘bribe’ the guests with money to let him reach her!
The bride and groom are treated like royalty during the bersanding ceremony
During this part of the ceremony, the couple sits on thrones, which are decorated with traditional floral arrangements, and guests lavish them with blessings for their marriage. Guests will also throw yellow rice and flower petals on them, both of which are symbolic of fertility!
There may be a second bersanding the next day at the groom’s house
While this Malaysian wedding tradition is considered optional nowadays, there are still many couples who have a second celebration at the groom’s house. Some couples also may choose to go to both houses in the same day! Do you want to know more about baju kurung kedah click here?